If a good friend said to your boyfriend “If you hurt her, I’ll hurt you” (or something to that affect) what would you think? Would you be happy that you had friends that would stick up for you like that, or would you be pissed off that the friend threatned your boyfriend?

I have a big thing for priorities, and values (espcially social values). I’m the sort of person who will always put a friend before a boyfriend/girlfriend, no matter what, or who’s skank it is for the time. I realised that my flatmate isn’t like this.

Okay, I suppose I should make myself a little clearer.
rainbowbright has been going out with an English Lad for the past 2 months or so. Now he’s due to go down south next week, and I think is going back to England after that. That’s only the start of the problem. Rainbowbright has decided to fall in love again. I say that because she seems to fall in love very easily – e.g. with one of my mates came for just a week. The thing that’s really annoying is that she doesn’t fall for people who are good for her, or who won’t cause her pain. What’s up with that?

Anyways, back to the story. Rainbowbright has fallen for this English Lad. greeny gave her some advice on the topic being “cool it down slowly, so that by the time he leaves, it won’t be so hard.” This was great advice, but I don’t know if Rainbowbright has taken it. I can still see the remains of our lil’ Rainbowbright sitting on our couch being depressed for the next month.

The other thing was: the friday night everyone came round and watched the MTV awards and got drunk, our lil’ Rainbowbright got very drunk, and decided to tell English Lad that she loved him, and a whole lotta other stuff. While comforting Rainbowbright, I had a talk with the English Lad. He told me that he didn’t like her as much as she liked him. What does that immediatly spring to mind?? He’s in the realtionship for the ride. He knows it’s not going to last, and he must know that he’s stringing her along. And that’s just not fair. You don’t go out with someone if you don’t like them enough, and you’re going to be leaving the country anyway.

So this is where I tell English Lad that if he hurts her, I’d kill him. Meaning that if he hurts her anymore that necessary, that I would find him, and give him a piece of my mind, and if necessary a piece of my fist. I like to think that I’m a very loyal person. If anyone hurts my friends, they don’t get away with it.

And back to my point of why I don’t think Rainbowbright puts her friends before her boyfriends in a values way? Because if Rainbowbright put her friends first 100% of the time, she would have appreciated what I did for her, and realised that friends are going to be forever. Because she told me off for threatning English Lad, she must put him first right?

And this is why Rainbowbright is shitty at me. Because I threatned her boyfriend. I just can’t believe how much she doesn’t understand how the world works. She said to me “That may be how things go in the Naki, but that’s not how things work here.” I thought about it at the time, and agreed, yeah maybe, it’s a bigger town here, yadda yadda… but after thinking about it a little later, it does happen here.

For example: If I were to hurt my boyfriend, I would have venusvixen, greeny, the guy, and all of J@zz’s close friends wringing my neck and making my life miserable. I’ve been basically told by greeny that if I were to ever hurt J@zz that I would suffer at the hands of venusvixen, and her. And I think the same would be true if J@zz ever hurt me. I’m pretty sure that greeny would have a few things to say to him. Not only that but Cuz (close friend from the Naki) has already said to J@zz “If you hurt my Sproke, I will hunt you down”
J@zz’s answer: “I wouldn’t expect anything less.”

That brings me to another thing that Rainbowbright said to me about English Lad “He’s given me lots of opportunities to get out.” If he’s been giving her chances to end things, it’s obvious that he wants things to end! I mean c’mon! Who scored 97% in a Cleo test of “how well do you understand guys”. If he’s giving her chances to get out of the relationship, I think he’s been wanting to get out, but not wanting to have to actually say it.

For Example:
Hypothetical Situation
You’re with a guy (or you are the guy, whichever fits) and you’re havin a chat with your girlie, and you’re really not sure with the realtionship. You really don’t think it’d last, but you really don’t want the chick to break down in tears right then in front of her, where you know that you’d have to comfort her etc, etc…
The Soloution: You say to her
“Where do you think we’re heading?” or
“Do you really like me that much…” or
“Are you happy with the way things are going?” or
“You know I’m going to be leaving soon…”
something along the lines of giving an opportunity for your girlie to say…
“yeah, I think we should end it”
So that it’s her decision. So the guy doesn’t have to deal with the crying etc, because it’s her final words that seal the agreement. It then becomes a mutal agreement, and there’s no hard feelings. I mean, what guy wants to break up with a chick and have her crying for the next month? (Not that we do that guys.)

Ya know, the only thing that I’ve ever been shitty at Rainbowbright about is her saying that if it gets too expensive at the flat, that she’d have to move out, and she’s the one that isn’t as careful with the power as everyone else.

So what do I do with a flatmate that just doesn’t understand?

Sproke ;0|

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