Comments on: It’s been a long year

By: Sproke :0)

Sproke :0) — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 06:09:47 +0000

thanks Allyn *hugs* your willingness to talk to me about these things means a lot to me

By: Sproke :0)

Sproke :0) — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 06:01:51 +0000

Well with no internet, this question was a bit hard to answer! bloody hell!

By: allyn

allyn — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 05:09:43 +0000

gods but i feel for you on this… i lost a bunch of friends when Jodi and i separated. to a certain extent it’s part of the reason that Bex and i are moving… after years of trying, Wellington just doesn’t feel like home anymore ’cause i still feel like i have to work so hard to have a social life these days. and now is better than it was a couple of years ago where Bex and i were both persona non grata in a lot of places. to a certain extent i’ve had to just draw some lines in the sand. some people (e.g. Jodi) are worth my time and effort, others are not. you may find the same to be true for you. the people who stick by you through this time are your friends. those that don’t, well, you may find that it’s best to just amputate those relationships and move on.
but, as always, your milage may vary.
i also empathize with you on the whole “where?” question. it’s taken a while but it feels good to have settled on a destination… which is the primary reason that Bex and i are getting married/having a wedding. it’s just putting a legal document to the relationship that Bex and i already have. but US immigration insists on that particular legal document for Bex to be able to live and work in the US. we have pretty much decided on Oakland, but Portland still has a lot of appeal. the way the plan is now, we’ll try Oakland first for a year or so, and then maybe move to Portland next depending on how we’re feeling then.
anyhoo, yes, this is a difficult time, but it’s also an opportunity to start fresh and toss away the things/ideas/etc that are no longer useful to you.
and for all of the things that haven’t worked out as you might have planned, it’s nonetheless been a heck of an adventure.

many blessings for you in 2010!!!

By: housemonkey

housemonkey — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 04:01:29 +0000

What’s that then?

By: Sproke :0)

Sproke :0) — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 11:03:04 +0000

Yes yes, that is indeed my cellphone number. flick me a text so I have your number yeah?

You should bring friends to vinegar hill. Do it, do it now.

By: housemonkey

housemonkey — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 09:53:49 +0000

Not sure yet, somewhere in Wellington though, depends how I’m feeling really. Hmm, 8 3 double-7 1 5?

By: Sproke :0)

Sproke :0) — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 09:11:15 +0000

Thank you. I appreciate your support. I hear many people’s 2009 has been crap. Apparently, astrologically 2009 is the year of endings.

I feel a bit weird about the ‘strong’ part. The way that I see it, I’ve made a decision and I’m sticking to it, because I know it’s the right one.

I’m glad you still like me… what are you doing for New Years? Have you my cellphone number?

By: housemonkey

housemonkey — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 02:44:35 +0000

Well I still like you. Not that I really know you that well, but I hardly know Anthony better.
My 2009′s been quite shit too, so I’m really impressed with how strong you’ve been in dealing with all the stress and I’m sure you’ll make the right decision about what to do next.

By: Sproke :0)

Sproke :0) — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 01:54:10 +0000

Merry Christmas to you too Sass. I hope you have a fabulous day

By: Sass

Sass — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 22:44:58 +0000

It seems to me that 2009 has been a massive year for endings for all manner of people. That hopefully means the universe is telling us that 2010 will be a year full of new beginnings:) Merry Christmas Heidi:)